Saturday, July 01, 2006

Shanghai Girls

Arina thus being unavailable, I decided to put some time in chasing Deedee instead. But she is tied up with stuff at her university this week, and so I batted off an SMS inviting Echo out to lunch.

She’s the woman I met in a class six months back or so, and her bright, confident and artistic nature impressed me. So I made sure to chase her a little afterwards, and we have become friends, going to listen to music together, see art shows and the like. She is the best type of Shanghai girl.

Shanghai girls like this are usually easy to spot. I can walk into a new class, cast my eye over the desks and fairly accurately pick out the local women. There is a certain style of woman, such as Deedee, such as Echo, who is obviously, immediately, a ‘Shanghai Girl.’ They are so easy to spot that I when I begin to talk with them I usually begin with, ‘So you’re from Shanghai, right?

This, in passing, is a good way of warm-up wooing, because what the statement ‘You’re from Shanghai, right?’ really means is, ‘You are a fashionable, modern woman, stylish and confident, and I recognize this. I recognize your sense of individuality and self-confidence. I see you.’ And Shanghai Woman is quite subtle enough to hear and remember this compliment.

China Man, generally, is not; for when I say to Shanghai Woman, ‘So, you’re a local?’ guys in the class will generally be taken aback, and ask me how I know this. This goes to show what a stolid and unimaginative fish China Man can be. But I am glad of it, for his sexual naiveté is why lechers like me do so well.

But this is not to say all Shanghai women are the same, far from it; the city does have plenty of quiet, timid, ‘traditional’ women. Yet even they generally have the Shanghai attitude. If I say to women such as these, ‘Are you from Shanghai?’ most usually they will reply, ‘Of course!’ with some pep, as though to say, ‘How could I possibly be from anywhere else? Do you think I look like someone from out of town?

The Shanghainese, in large, look down on people from outside Shanghai but look up to people from outside China – if those people are white. Expatriates from Africa and India in particular, I have found, do not quite have the respect of many Chinese people, and some of my more honest students (a small, small number) will admit this racism exists.

But most deny it totally, and get as touchy as fuck if one suggests something so negative about China (or indeed anything negative about China, no matter how small). This is why I have to be a little careful in class. When I talk about the issue of Shanghai snobbery, I generally say I feel it exists, but then make sure to add that people in other cities can be the same. It’s true about New York, I’ll say, or Paris, or London (but not Tokyo; one cannot mention Tokyo). I don’t really know if that’s how it is in all of those cities, but the point is that one can just about offer a tiny criticism of China, as long as one says that other countries are the same, and preferably worse. Truthful, open criticism of China is impossible; this is not a people willing to hear truth.

Chinese racism is perhaps more clearly shown in a saying that is sometimes used here, which imagines a celestial baker creating humanity. ‘He left the black people in the oven too long, the white people not long enough but us, the Chinese, he cooked just right.’

But anyhow.

So Echo and I met a little after midday at a sandwich bar at Nanjing and Shaanxi Road; she was dressed vivid, bright, appealing, yellows and oranges, and with a funky new hairstyle, shots of red and curls. That, and her trim, slender body, perky breasts, effervescent smile make her an appealing package indeed.

And as we ate we chatted of this and that. She told me she had decided she’d had enough of her boyfriend, an accountant, that he was too dull, that she had set her sights overseas study and he, lumpen, averse to risk, was not interested in joining her. Thus, she has decided, they must part. This pleased me, for in it I see my angle; free of the guilt of a betrayal she will be easier to charm to bed – and with overseas calling her, there is no hassle of sought permanence.

Potentialities of sex aside, I do like her just for her friendship, her bright, artistic nature. And for her self-confidence. I asked her when she had developed this style of hers, for I knew it would have been wholly banned at high school. In her second year of university, she told me. She explained that she had been the first on her campus to break out of the standard schoolgirl haircut, and that when she did, the Dean of her university criticized her for it, telling her she should not wear her hair so fashionable, that she should turn it back to a more uniform, standard style, that she should be just like everyone else. She refused.

And then, she told me, the Dean said, ‘Then I will ask your parents to come in and we will see what they say.

I had to stop her at that point and just make sure I had not misunderstood –was she really talking about university, not high school? She was. Even with the many tales of university absurdity I have heard, this one still took me aback. ‘What did you say to that?’ I asked. She told me her parents always supported – even encouraged – her to be herself, and she told the Dean as much.

Good for her parents, I say, for a lot of Chinese parents give their children very little freedom, deciding what they should study, eat, do, say, think, dress; where they should work, who they should date. Hers seem that rare exception, adults who understand what loving a child really means.

She told me another anecdote about this objectionable Dean. One student in her course stole the wallet of another, and was caught doing so. The course tutor took the student aside to ask why she had done it, saying, ‘If you need money, just ask me.’ But the student had not stolen it for money, but rather out of an obscure sense of anger over some perceived slight. The way the malefactor explained this made the grade teacher worry a little over her mental health, and so he wanted to adopt a light touch, to treat the student with care, to send her to talk to a doctor rather than publicly shame her (a doctor only; China has more or less zero mental health specialists). The victim of the pilfering agreed with this approach.

But the Dean got to hear of the matter, and weighed in. The student must be shamed, he decided, and expelled; and so she was. ‘And so that was the end of her life’ said Echo, ‘After that there is no way she could ever get a good job.’ And then she told me that the Dean had followed up this shitty act by firing the grade tutor. Astonishing.

China is in so many ways a fucked up society. Yet even with these numerous ills and absurdities, it remains an overly proud, fervently nationalistic country.

Mixed with its stiff-necked pride is a pervasive victim mentality. All China’s woes are blamed on others, from the Western countries’ invasion of China in the 19thC and the Japanese in the second world war to perceived discrimination today from ‘the West.’

But this is the logical choice. China must have someone to blame, since facing the truth of the matter would be too psychologically devastating. The truth is that China savages itself, rips and wounds itself; all China’s ills are inflicted by its government, its organizations and institutions. By its citizens, in a word, from the president on down. And how many people could face such a truth as that? How can they admit that since 1949 their own government has brought them nothing but misery, murder and death? That they and no-one else are to blame for their woes?

And so Chinese society is stuck in deep denial, and the people who know least about modern China are the Chinese themselves. Chinese people, in general, know nothing about their society and are simply not interested in finding out. For example, I have asked 50 people in the last week what is happening at Shengda University. Not one knew. They simply do not care, are not interested in finding out. Eyes shut, blindness all the way. Each country gets the government it deserves.

Echo, at least, has a wider view, a more mature perspective. The petty folly of life here is not for her, and this is why she wants to go overseas. ‘If I stayed here the only way I could get ahead is by guanxi, and I just can’t do that – can’t pretend to like people purely to get a better job, can’t flatter.’ She told me her soon-to-be-ejected boyfriend had urged her to stay in her job, since working in a state-owned concern like hers is usually a safe berth. ‘But I could just not bear it’ she told me, ‘Having to use guanxi to get anything done.’

I agreed that it was not the right job for her, adding, ‘But I guess it shows your boyfriend does care for you, because he wants you to be safe.’ I said that to show what a straight-up guy I was, and to try to make her think I was disinterested in the matter. Trashing her boyfriend for his lack of imagination would not be the right way to proceed; it would, in effect, be saying, ‘You are an idiot to stay with such a guy so long.’ So instead I showed this measure of respect for her choice, though observed, ‘But I guess it shows he does not really understand you.’ The implication here, of course, being that I did.

She continued, ‘And also I’d have to rely on my relationships with government people to get them to give us money… and of course that would mean.. you know that I would have to… when they…when the leaders...

I don’t now recall quite how she phrased it, but her meaning was utterly clear; that her guanxi would be her body, that government guys would come on to her and if she did not fuck them or blow them they would make sure her art center got no money.

I cannot blame her for wanting to get out; the best and brightest leave. They have to.

It was a pleasing, promising lunch, and there was more going on than mere chat. Beneath our conversation we were sounding each other out, and her mention of dumping her boyfriend was no casual observation. Our meal concluded with her inviting me to an event next weekend; and that, I hope, can be followed by dinner and bed.

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Danny said...

Ignorant mentality is created by a wave of controlled propaganda institutionalized by the central government. Imagine living in a world that everything you read and hear from early on is cultivated reflection of grandeur of a one party system. I don’t think Chinese people are in denial as if they choose to ignore the obvious. Their mentality simply has no other choice to consider. There are brazen few who would dig deep and question the obvious. But it’s not an effortless undertake. Even in the US, no school text book will mention slaughtering of American Indians. Racism will always exist. It’s our inner desire to feel one step above while finding whatever reasoning that we can come up with to belittle others. We all exercise and practice one way or another some form of discrimination. It’s will not go away.

Irina said...

English Men generally have huge balding foreheads and bad bucked teeth like albino rabbits. English Men have pasty white tiny twizzlers that can't stay erect for more than a few minutes. They love getting drunk and 'God Bless the Queen' is a song they sing to sober up. These pathetic English Men are mostly superficial; they think class means a country where men with bulging waistlines talk like their mouths are chockful of testicles and carrying a Burberry umbrella in wretched weather is cool. English Men are forever grateful to the Russians (Soviets) for destroying the German 6th Army in Stalingrad (present day Volgograd) during World War II. English Men have tiny pea-sized balls and were mighty scared of the German army. English Men also love to wear women's underwear; this is proven time and time again by their male politicians.

ChinaBounder said...

...English Men also love to wear women's underwear

I certainly do.

ChinaBounder said...

Danny, I have given some thought to this, and while what you say has merit, I cannot agree. I think you somewhat oversimplify the matter, and offer a slightly patronizing view of Chinese society – as if its people were merely children to be humored.

It seems to me that many Chinese people are perfectly well aware that the CCP is a gang of crooks and liars, who cheat, rob, boast and bluster. But they are aware of this only in a general sense. They do not want to look too closely, since then they would be forced to admit they are the dupes of the CCP. So while they know their government is not run too well, they pretend that though it ‘has made mistakes’ it is ‘getting better.’ This is the easier choice than facing the truth of the matter, which is that China is run by criminals and maniacs.

Take, for example, ‘The Three Represents,’ Jiang Zemin’s preposterous, preening theory. This is a piece of fucking bollocks of the first order.

Here it is:-

In a word, the Party must always represent the requirements of the development of China's advanced productive forces, the orientation of the development of China's advanced culture, and the fundamental interests of the overwhelming majority of the people in China (Jiang, at the 16th CPC Congress.)

Government should look after the interests of the people? A five year old child could work that out.

Don’t you think that the vast majority of Chinese society knows quite well that this is self-aggrandizing vapid twaddle? That this is utterly debased, bankrupt filth that denigrates and belittles China’s long and complex culture? They know everything the CCP says is shit, just like most of what is in the press is shit, most of what is on TV is shit, and much of what is taught in school and university is shit. Having been fed on shit since they were born, most people have a pretty good understanding of it. And so they just screen it out, shrug it off, pretend it ain’t so, and continue to live in this weird half-light of truth and untruth.

This is denial. It is understandable (and is perhaps an attitude I would adopt in the same situation), but it is denial nonetheless. The people I meet every day are China’s best and brightest; they speak excellent English and are net savvy. Sources of news beyond the clammy hand of Party control are easy for them to find. But they just stick to and They do not care. They are not interested.

And this is why China has the government it deserves.

danny said...

I don’t conceive parallel thinking as disagreement. I also believe that you have not given adequate consideration that taking intrusive approach to the CPC means corporal punishment, if lucky. If freedom of speech protection is truly granted, I will concede to your interpretation as they are being in ‘denial’, meanwhile I have much sympathy to carry.

BTW, it interesting to note that mass street demonstration is prohibited, but if it’s against the Japanese it’s encouraged. CPC at its best.

ChinaBounder said...

Perhaps we are talking at cross-purposes. I do not mean to suggest the Chinese people should rise up and do something about their government. I do not expect that to happen. As Lu Xun noted, Chinese people are deeply apathetic, and will watch a problem but never get involved in curing it. And besides, as you say, murmuring against the government is a dangerous matter, just as it has always been in China’s history. (The CPC is just as much a dynasty as the Ming, Qing etc)

I say they are in denial because they do not take the trouble to find out what is really going on in China. There is little personal danger in reading international news or history sites, and it takes little time and effort to make oneself well-informed. But few people seem to care about it.

They know their government lies to them.
They know how to use the internet.
There is little danger in reading international sources.
They do not read such sources.

So I can only see two explanations; either denial, or pure ignorance.

Yes, of course anti-Japan demonstrations are permitted. This gives people an outlet for political expression, but one that is not aimed at the CPC, and it increases feelings of nationalism, which again helps support the internal status quo. The CPC simply manipulates atrocities like the Nanjing Massacre for its own ends. This is as great an insult to the victims of that atrocity as is Koizumi’s visit to Yasukuni, but once again too many Chinese people fail to see they are dupes of their own government.

Foobear said...

Even in the US, no school text book will mention slaughtering of American Indians.

Really? My history textbook was full of stories about the sufferings of the Indians. Self-flaggelation is the national sport of American whites. I'm not sure what they/we (I'm a mix of races) would do if they ran out of things to feel guilty about. Of course, the perception must be maintained that we do not discuss things like the Trail of Tears, Jim Crow laws, etc., in history books, so they/we can self-flagellate more, when in actuality they have been in history books since at least the early 70s.

My fiancee (who is Chinese) said that if Adina's parents supported her individuality, she had to have been from a wealthy family. Chinabounder, can you confirm this or not?

ChinaBounder said...

...My fiancee (who is Chinese) said that if Adina's parents supported her individuality, she had to have been from a wealthy family. Chinabounder, can you confirm this or not?

Foobear, You fiancée is right, I think, insofar as the children of richer families can tend to have more independence and individuality (often because they have been exposed to a wider range of experiences) than their less wealthy peers. But this is not always the case. Adina’s family is indeed wealthy, but they do exert quite a lot of control over her. Her mother insists she goes home to Nanjing every couple of weekends during term time in Shanghai, for example. And the kids of some rich families can be very ignorant, conceited and spoiled.

While Adina’s parents seem happy to allow sartorial independence, they do not feel the same way in any other matters of personal independence. Thus her independence (for example, having an older, richer lover while she was still at high school) is largely carried on in secret from her parents.

Anonymous said...

Tell us more about the differences you see between girls back home and girls here.

Lana said...

A lot of the things you said about China are probably more true in Shanghai. you problly should know that shanghai is one of the most fucked up cities in the world, the most racist place in China. I don't think it's fair for you to generate your whole impression about Shanghai to CHINA.Like I personally think NYC is not less fucked up than shanghai, people there are mean and racist inside, but I wouldn't say people from the mid-east are like so.

Lana said...

Speak of denial,I cannot agree with you. Danny has his point. If you look at oversea's Chinese students, for example they are pretty active and really concerned about China. Students in China certainly don't have easy access to certain issues, they could get into trouble if they dig too deep. I believe you didn't really see the best of China. and I suggest you look into bigger samples before drawing your conclusions.

ChinaBounder said...

Lana, ‘… I don't think it's fair for you to generate your whole impression about Shanghai to CHINA'

I do not. I meet and talk to people from the whole of China regularly, from Xinjiang Uighurs and Yunnan Dai to Han from Anting to Zhengzhou. I expect I have talked to a wider range of Chinese people than you have.

I am familiar with the OYCF. But overseas Chinese are rather different to the mainland type. They do show the endless potential of Chinese ingenuity, commitment and ability; but since they are all outside the country it does little good to China. The CPC makes sure this inherent talent is not developed inside the country.

'…Speak of denial,I cannot agree with you.'

I still say it is denial. Young people know they are not told the truth by their schools, media or government, and they simply choose to accept it. Yes, you are right to say ‘they could get into trouble if they dig too deep’. But ‘digging too deep’ in today’s China means taking a more active role. If, for example, university students here began asking to be treated like people instead of cattle, or if, for example, mainlanders suggested it might be a good idea to listen to what Taiwan/Tibet/Xinjiang people say and show the tiniest measure of respect for them, rather than just ignoring them, or if, for example, people were to want to know just why the government is spending tens of billions on beefing up the PLA, then, yes, that would be ‘digging too deep.’

But reading the New York Times, which is freely available online and well within the reading ability of the majority of students, is most certainly not ‘digging too deep.’

Anonymous said...

Chinabounder, i agree with you for your opinion on political issues.
But please don't write anything about Chinese women, OK?
Of course there are a lot of chinese girls who acts like what you describe,but there are still many good girls like me.
Forgive my poor english.

Anonymous said...

I only want to see photoes of those chinese girls(naked better), nothing else.Will you show that to me?

Anonymous said...

After all your fucked up life in Shanghai, you finally showed some brain here.

Anonymous said...

Where are you from, dude? England?
I love british women... and I think they love sexing with American too! Last time I went to London visiting my buddy, he brought me a 20 yr old brit girl.
She had perfect skills on blow job, and her pussy was sweeeeettttt!!! I ended up paying her $50 USD, it's a BIG MONEY in the U.K...fuckkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am looking forward going to UK again to fuck those cheap, slutty brit women!!! Oh ya babe! GOD BLESS AMERICA!!!!

Anonymous said...

The author is a typical WHITE TRASH. I was born in Shanghai and now I am in New York. Like New York, as an international city and the biggest city in Far East, Shanghai has contained different people. In terms of our old Chinese saying, "trash is always with trash", undoubtedly and no exception, these girls he mentioned are only trash within Chinese women. This kind of WHITE TRASH, how can you imagine he can be with any decent women in Shanghai???

Anonymous said...

u r a fucking asshole.
get out of here.
ed boy

Anonymous said...

This fucked up author still could not understand the fundamental differences between East Asian and WASP (White Anglo-Saxon Protestants) countries: In our society, people avoid confrontations and advocate collaborations and that's what make things work for the last 5000 years.

Looked at Japan/Korea/Singapore or even Hong Kong, It is no secret that those countries with one ruling party for many decades outperform those ones with a churning/fighting multi-party political arena (Just look at the fucked-up Taiwan for the last 10 years!)

You do not understand how institutional power works differently in different cultures. Mao tried to break these kinds of East-Asian fabrics and he failed. Today's Chinese is merely returning to what they were 50, 100, 200 years ago. This is just a mathematical certainty. No one can do much to 1000s years of culture/thinnking/mentality. And it is not necessarily a bad thing - for one thing, Japs are doing just fine, don't they?

Wrt. the Sex part. I am utterly amazed on how shallow one can be: both the author and his easy-prey SH girls. The author boasted on his ability to predate on those superficial and naive girls and drew the conclusion that Chinese woman are generally charmed by white folks. While, where do I begin would be amazed if you cast the question of "Are you willing to marry a white guy?" to those well-educated young women, esp. those with a sliver of expectation on engaging in relationships that provide even a little bit of soul companionship. The reason is simple: same cultural/lauguage background simply renders a much higher probability of deeper understanding and harmonic exchanges in a relationship. Only those who don't give a shit about that (and only respond to the libido surge) couldn't care less about her partner's ability on those aspects.

And you, the author, unfortunately, got those ones who don't give a shit about soul companionships, in another word, congratulations pal, you just got yourself some cheap sluts who only treat you as some certain type of exotic dishes. Yet you shown such a proud to be a piece of urchin sushi.

Oh well, isn't that's what UK is about in the last 100 years anyway? What's left to showboating after Churchill claimed victory on his greatest achievement on stop Germans bombing London? Don't bring up Dreston please...without Americans, you are probably still eating your own shit under the U-boat blockade.

And the worst of the worst is, man, you have to make a living by coming to my country - if you don't want to be fucked mental in your Scottland backyards by other anal-sex lover white trashes. Pathetic, eh?

Anonymous said...

Well, ppl from a small island are really short-sighted and knows nothing but being arrogance. What you have written clearly tells us what a typical english jerk can be. english chicks have their 'attractive' pear shape body which is quite famous around world. Probably that's why you are getting so sick out of this.

engisland has nothing but its legacy dreams being a kingdom without sunset. but now, you only get endless raining and dark winters in the island. that's probably why you leave the hell and go to china.

wake up, mate! have a glance of what engisland is now: anti-social behaviour, excessive drinking, knife crime, and students cannot even read properly when they are enrolled in unis... the only thing you left to be proud of is ur fucking ability. Ironically, based on a survey to men in the world, english men, without any doubts, have the shortest erection time, less than 2 mins. congratulations!

i am deeply sorry for those nice britons who could be humiliated becos of you and your behaviour.

Anonymous said...

hello, man, you will be very famous in China. A lot of ppl have posted your sayings on the Chinese website & forums....(translated in Chinese).

Well, they will find u and post your photo on the website the next month.

wait nd c....

Anonymous said...

if I were you, I would leave Shanghai and return to your island right away, before it's too late.

Anonymous said...

Yo, douchebag! I have no fucking clue why you wrote whole bunch shit about your retardly lousy, cheesy sexual life in the fucked up China. What the hell else did you do in China other than sex? I am wondering if you could write some shit about your fucking experience in England? How were they? How did you bang your girls back home? How they taste like? Are they good cock suckers? I want to know the details about it as long as I was told that english girls are so fucking gorgeous. I got hook up with a british woman(34 yrs old)in Montreal, Canada last couples weeks, and I invited her to dinner at Sixty Steak House at Downtown Toronto next Wednesday night. We might do some gangbang shit after dinner. I wish it is gona be a wonderful night...LOL So dude, could you please introduce some good shit about the way to taste british women in your next blog entry ASAP?
C'mon.You fucking jerkass! get fucking update your blog. Let us know more about your fucked up sex experience!

Anonymous said...

Ein riesen Depp!

Anonymous said...

Du bist wohl ein Arschloch! Mit Menschen wie du kann ich nix mehr sagen, auch in Deutschland nennt man solcher Personen wie du unseriös.

miumiu said...

I am a Chinese woman live abroad now. My British or American friends told me"English tutor" is a loser's job in Asia, I did not believe and wanted to convince them. After reading your blog, I truely understand what they mean. Obviously you are a loser that cannot find a decent job in UK neither a decent girlfriend so you fuck around in China. You are way too naive, all you think about is chasing girls(they have to be Chinese, coz you know white girls won't even look at you). Grow up!

ChinaBounder said...

Miumiu said.. Obviously you are a loser that cannot find a decent job in UK

So you’re saying the only jobs China has to offer are to people who have almost no skills? Is that what you really want to say? That China only attracts `losers’? That it is such a low-quality country any idiot can get a job there? It is not so. Think more carefully.

all you think about is chasing girls(they have to be
Chinese, coz you know white girls won't even look at you).

Duh. Well, obviously

Anonymous said...

Get a life dumbass. What Miumiu was saying is you had wasted your entire be a loser so you had to make a living with what your mom and pop had taught you before you turn puberty.

In that sense, you are not very different from $20 hooker you shake your dick at. They sell their pussies and you sell tongue and lips - oh well, you might even sell them in many different ways if you know what I mean....SUCKER.

Anonymous said...

Fuck you , son of bitch ! Go back to home and intercourse with your grandmother soon !

Anonymous said...

well,if everything u said is true,then i dont see anything wrong with u~~bitches should be fucked and published online~~more pictures plz

Anonymous said...

more insults and pictures please

Anonymous said...

ChinaBounder, just give a fuck about those nasty comments from those loosers or clueless people. Especialy the girls here who think they could resist any man and can unveil his true intentions. If they don't see our well played disguise they will fall for you as well.
I actualy found myself doing the same here in germany of what you did there. It is harder here in europe, because as you said, white girls do know a white guy better. But in the end it just takes more effort and time.
But the thrill of it gives the best reward, not by just fucking, but by fucking girls who tell you on the 1st talk, how smart they are and how easy they can see thru a man's mind and they would never blablablabla (let em believe this, thats perfect)
In the end they gasp with wide eyes when they get off and be happy and I have a realy great time with them. And this is not single sided only, both sides benefit from it.

And I can just agree, Married girls make the best lovers. Definately!!! Especialy those late 30ish asian women here with their super rich husbands who cannot satisfy them. They are so desperate and caring, it is amazing once you convinced them (in bed) that the age difference doesnt matter at all.

Actualy sometimes, reading your blog I think you put too much pressure on them, it seems to work, but it also would work with more subtile talk than going too directly for it, but thats just our personal unique way I guess.
But you have definately room for improvement in your dialoges. You spam too many compliments sometimes (c'mon 6 compliments in a row...), and give less freedom of choice to them. Maybe this is a better way for Chinese girls, but
in europe (Germany) the girl needs to believe she can decide always for herself, she can judge herself and find the right decission. Let them think they are in controll and can decide anytime. So the key here lies in a more detailed, well placed subtile manipulation in conversatuion. You know what I mean, you already use this style well and I realy loved reading it.
I was just so amazed how easily it is possible there, probably here your thesis of difference of culture comes into big support for us.

Anyway the best friend of a good looking potent man after his cunning mind are the females hormones and their desperate need for a strong but sensual man who understands them and does not give them patronizing advices or talks for them, simply respecting them and supporting them if THEY require it.

Hormones > Brain, this goes for probably 90% of the people(womenand man) so its just a matter of patience, creativity and skill.

And guess what, I will check your experience. I found myself a lucky guy because tadaaa!!
I will relocate to China as well, since my company needs to send some engineers over to Taicang. I realy cannot wait how those ladies welcome a 195cm blonde, intelligent , sporty guy in his early 30ies. I just have to get a stockpile of condoms with me ;).

And yes start the flaming guys, but I can say I have it what it needs to get the girl I want, and the next and the next...because my experience tells me I am right. And yes I had chinese girls as well here in Europe and they could have choosen a lot of us guys here.

So ChinaBounder, even if you are no longer in the country there, I can't wait to walk in your footsteps of cause with style and respect for the women I date, at least I always giving them this impression.

Anonymous said...

Nothing brings out international racism like a white guy talking about his exploits with asian women. White men are not allowed to be happy. If a white man finds happiness with an asian woman, he must be chastized for it. Nobody spews that kind of shit when white women are raving on and on about the black men they use as life-support systems for dildos. It is racism, pure and simple. Racism against white males and everyone who partakes in it should be very, VERY ashamed of themselves.

Racism sucks!